Katie's Diary

Autism and Relationships

18th July 2014

Relationships are a main part of life, every person goes through them at some stage and everyone encounters problems. We just couldn’t do without them.

Autism affects around 700,000 people in the UK. It affects how people communicate and how they make sense of the world around them.   It can be hard for those that have the condition to build relationships with other people, whilst also dealing with the issues that surround relationships.  It is also hard for their partners to cope with some of the problems that come with autism.

The subject of relationships is not easy to talk about, even for those that have autism. We’ve all been there, trying to talk to others with the worries that we have and how we might express our feelings about the situation but often struggling to get our words out.

The right support and counselling can help those with autism and their partners; and give partners a clear understanding of the symptoms of Autism or Asperger’s.

The most important thing is a proper diagnosis followed by care and an understanding about dealing with it much more easily so that you and a partner can help to push these worries away and continue to build a happier relationship. 

ubu helps the people they serve get to grips with any thoughts that they may have and provides support to deal with the problems first hand. 


Having the facts, ambition and a desire to still get out there and do what you want can lead to some amazing outcomes and achievements. Why not take a look at http://www.autismtalk.tv/ who have created a number of shows that discuss openly the different aspects of everyday life and how to cope with them.  There are a high number of celebrities that have autism and overcame their challenges to achieve success in their industries, take a look:   

Susan Boyle- singer and runner up in Britain’s Got Talent show, 


Last week, the National Autistic Society hosted a conference where the experts spoke about how people with Autism and Asperger’s can cope with problems around their relationships, sexuality and puberty. 

The conference tackled issues such as forming relationships; discovering your partner is autistic, coping with the reactions of others, appropriate action and inappropriate action; dating, flirting and families.

There was practical guidance for partners, families, carers, professionals and those with autism.

It heard from partners who said they sometimes struggled to understand why their loved one was sometimes affectionate and living but could be harsh and cruel; and from children who adored their father but didn’t understand why he signed their birthday cards with his name, not – Dad.

What is important to remember is that everyone is unique so each person may have the same condition but act differently.  This is normal.

Further details and information can be found at http://www.autism.org.uk/about-autism/all-about-diagnosis/diagnosis-information-for-partners/after-diagnosis/your-relationship.aspx 

Autism and Relationships

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